THE TOP ACTIONS TO EMOTIONAL ENLIGHTENMENT

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HAPPY PURPLE BUDDHA

Making the switch from believing intrinsically that we are an emotion to believing that emotions are actually like our employees – here to help us manage our days – is very freeing, yet tough to do. In last week’s article, Emotions As Tools of the Soul, we discussed the benefits of this way of viewing our feelings.

This week we take a look at some basic actions to take that are both simple and surprisingly effective at making this shift possible. The more you can incorporate these into your life, the faster your emotions become your own personal assistants in creating a more fulfilling life.

 

1. WRITE DOWN YOUR EMOTION

I know, this is stunningly radical information I’m imparting here. But the funny thing is, doing this actually produces a rather profound change in how we’re able to process our feelings.

The reason for this is that the act of writing down any recurring emotion that is coming up FOCUSES US ON THE INITIAL FIRST REACTION TO IT. And that first reaction gives us the most authentic clues about what issues in our life need addressed.

I’d suggest keeping it super simple. Writing the word ANGER, JEALOUSY, FEAR, or SADNESS in bold letters is enough. Stick this somewhere you can see it every day, because observing it over and over reminds us not to stuff it back down where it is doing us no good. It forces us to keep facing why we’re so angry or sad or fearful or jealous. And that why holds the key that unlocks the door to solutions.

 

2. PRACTICE STAYING PRESENT

This is the Mac Daddy of Emotional Enlightenment because it is only in the present that we can observe our emotions in order to answer that why question.  When we’re busy continually rehashing what someone did to us (past) or how we are going to make them pay for it (future), we’ve become the emotion instead of learning from it.

It’s so much easier to stay present when we’ve practiced it during times when we’re not emotionally overwrought. Practicing staying present when the stakes aren’t so high makes for a much smoother ride when they are. There are several strategies that can make it easier to stay in the here and now:

 

3. TAKE ONE STEP TO RESOLVE WHATEVER THE FEELING IS POINTING YOU TOWARD

Here, we take those reasons why that we discovered when writing down the emotion, and we use them to brainstorm solutions. If you’re jealous of someone’s success, for example, write down some things you can do that would start you on your own path to success.

Start with one item on your brainstormed list and put it into action in your life. That’s it. Once that’s done, you can breath and relax, knowing that you just took one step up the emotional enlightenment ladder. Congratulations.

But don’t forget to:

 

4. THANK YOUR EMOTIONS FOR THEIR HELP 

Just like we would thank our co-workers or employees for a job well done, so too should we show appreciation for our emotions when they point the way to a more fulfilling life. The benefit of doing this is twofold:

  • It helps us remember that we are not our emotions, but rather that they are here to assist us.
  • It helps us to remember that our so-called negative emotions can be a positive presence in our life if we use them to illuminate the issues behind the issues.

Discussion Question: What other actions can we take to help make our emotions work for us?

-Kirstie Ganobsik


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4 thoughts to “THE TOP ACTIONS TO EMOTIONAL ENLIGHTENMENT”

  1. Kirstie, what a fun way to honor and yet appropriately separate ourselves from the sticky wicket of emotions. I agree wholeheartedly in your advise. Blog on!

  2. I loved the advice to give to a cause. I think Giving is one of the best feelings I personally can have. I always have a giddy smile on my face when I am writing a card for someone, sending someone a package etc. I love the art of giving back, and I think it is one of the major keys to an enlightened soul.

  3. And to answer the question- I think that being out in nature is great way to free ourselves of emotional bonds. Being inside and stuffed up is not a recipe towards emotional success! 🙂

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