1.DO NOT WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE READY
I was recently helping an older client learn some basics of the online world. Our session was chalked full of issues: her email password failed to work, she didn’t know the answers to her security questions, and after the contents of her cart “disappeared”, we discovered that the website we were on had two separate shopping carts for each section of the site.
“It hates me!” she bellowed in frustration, dropping her head in her hands dejectedly over all the stumbling blocks she was encountering.
“It doesn’t hate you,” I said while chuckling. “This stuff happens to everyone.” I saw her face relax and a lightbulb come on as she began to comprehend that most of the so-called problems she was encountering had nothing to do with her. She simply had not known how to handle these things, so she had assumed they were self-deficiencies.
Once she began viewing the issues as normal, I noticed a shift: SHE began schooling ME on some of the places we needed to navigate to on the website!
And that’s the way it is with our dreams too: we can’t know how to do them until we do them. The key here is to stop viewing learning experiences as problems, and instead enjoy the fact that these experiences are helping us to live our dreams.
2.BE PREPARED FOR YOUR NEAREST AND DEAREST NOT TO WALK OUT ON THE WIRE WITH YOU
You will need to start wrapping your mind around becoming your own fully functioning support system. This is because most people are still giving into their fears rather than living their dreams. When they encounter someone who does the latter, they treat us as if we’ve forgotten to put on deodorant. But the truth is they simply haven’t acclimated their noses to the sweat required to make a dream come true.
Self-sufficiency is key – but this doesn’t have to mean that you’re alone. Those in the same boat as you can become your dream support team when those closest to you panic and run. Join a Facebook group relevant to your dream. Watch an inspiring documentary. Find some books that help you so that you know you’re not the only one who is out there flying through the air. Make new friends. Reacquaint yourself with old ones.
By seeking out those who are already mid-leap, you are in effect saying to the Universe that you love yourself enough to give yourself the support you need. And here’s the good news: The Universe always treats us the way we treat ourselves.
3.BE PREPARED FOR YOUR HIGHER POWER TO WALK OUT ON THE WIRE WITH YOU
This sounds funny to say – why would we have to prepare for something that’s already going to happen? The reason is, we’re the driving force of it happening. Here’s what I mean:
When we choose to fulfill our Soul’s goals, we make the way smooth by acknowledging that our relationship with our Higher Power is meant to be a cooperative one. For example, if you’ve left your corporate job to teach outdoor survival skills to city kids for $10/hr, it’s not only OK to be blunt with your Higher Power about how much money you need that week to make bank – indeed, it’s necessary. Faith doesn’t just mean trusting that the funds will be delivered – it also means being close enough to your Higher Power to ask for them.
Trust is built up as we come through for one another, and the same holds true for our relationship with our Higher Power. Fulfilling our Soul’s goals in a world that constantly tells us to sell out is H-A-R-D hard. Doing this is akin to coming through for our Higher Power. Therefore, we need to get real about the ways in which we need our Higher Power to come through for us.
4.WOULD YOU DO IT FOR FREE? PICK ONE:
Notice the lack of multiple choices here? This is because our purposes are innate, and not tied to a tool like money. That’s not to say that part of our goal shouldn’t be to monetize our dream; rather, the purpose of doing so needs to be to enable us to free up more and more time to give the world our particular gift. To be blunt, the world needs our Soul’s talents. It doesn’t need us to buy bigger and bigger houses, cars, and toys.
But not to worry: when the joy of doing something is its own reward, that joy will naturally attract the people and situations needed to make a living at it. This is positive irony at work, and after the other kind of irony that we’ve all had to deal with, isn’t it about time we get to experience its upside?